7 Things People Living With MS Wished You Knew

Thereās nothing like a chronic illness to make you re-evaluate your inner circle. Some friends will be faithful and supportive while others just wonāt seem to get it. TheyĀ won’t understand thatĀ you have symptoms they canāt see and they’ll feel frustrated that they donāt know how to help. Feel free to forward this article toĀ all friends fitting this description.
1) MS is not an excuse. ThereĀ will beĀ good days and there will be bad ones.Ā
This makes chronic conditions difficult to understand. It can be hard for friends to truly “get it.” MS attacks the body from the inside out and friends canāt see it happening. If it were the flu, there would be aĀ fever. If it were a broken leg, there would beĀ a cast. If someone were falling down the stairs, there would probably be a scream. Instead, MS is silent. The outside world can’tĀ see, feel or hear patients’ fatigue, pain or depression. There will be good days and there will be bad ones. MS is not an excuse. MS is a condition that patients must live with.
2) You may see an inability to walk, but the real trauma is on the inside.
Can you imagine not having full control of your body? Not being able to wake up and roll out of bed to take onĀ the day ahead? Not being able to quickly accomplish simple tasks like getting dressed? This is the reality of living with MS. Now imagine, waking up, never knowingĀ what kind of day youāre going to get. Whether youāre going to be able to jump up and get on with your day. The sense of loss, the feeling of anger, the worry that life is passing you by when all you want to do is get on and live it. This is the reality of MS, a reality where theĀ support and understanding fromĀ friends and family can mean the world.
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3) Just becauseĀ something worked forĀ someone with MS doesn’t mean itĀ will work for everyone.
MS is a chronic condition without a cure. A condition where the immune system begins attacking itself and doctors don’tĀ understand why. Itās unpredictable, it flares in different ways and what works for some does not work for everyone. Itās not like taking antibiotics for a chest infection. Everyoneās symptoms are unique and just because something workedĀ for your cousin or sister doesn’t mean it’ll work for everyone battling MS.
4) Tiredness is not the same thing as chronic fatigue.
Itās hard pushing through tiredness. That feeling of being completely exhausted. The one where you only got five hours of sleep because you went out until the wee hours of the morning. The one where youāre hungover and barely able to keep your eyelids open.
As hard as that battle is, itās not the same as chronic fatigue.
The tiredness that comes with MS is like a switch positioned to off with a million lead weights stacked on top. It can feel like having the flu paired with jetlag paired with the feeling of having just run a marathon. You feel like youĀ have no control over whether you stayĀ awake. Itās being in the middle of doing something and having to stop. Theyāll be no prior warning, theyāll be no obvious cause and pushing through wonāt help.
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5) Being drunk andĀ having MS can sometimes look the same.
Sometimes MS can causeĀ the same things that happen when you’re drunk or tired. You may stumble around like a drunk person trying to clamber your way through a crowd. You may slur your words or be unable to see properly. MS patients canĀ suffer from what look like tremors. MS causes all these symptoms without the need to drink alcohol. Understanding and support are the best gifts you could give.
6) A good nightās sleep does not do for those with MSĀ what it does for those without.
MS causes you to feel tired all the time. Imagine waking up with the same feeling of fatigue you went to bed with. Feeling completely unrefreshed after a well-rested night. Through a whole waking day it can feel like youāre walking through mud. Battling an invisible field of resistance that feels like youāre dragging your body behind you. Ā Even if you canāt see the ongoing internal game MS plays, allowing for and appreciating this can mean the world to a patient.
7) MS can be really, really bizarre.
Itās not just tiredness. MS affects your entire being: your brain, your movement, your memory, your speech. It means forgetting things more than others. Having something to say, knowing the words but physically being unable to pull them out. MS can sometimes be the elephant in the room. Itās okay to help laugh off these moments. Some even call it therapy.
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