What’s on your MS bucket list?
I never used to have a wish list of things, but with MS, I do now

One of the things my occupational therapist uses to strengthen and improve the coordination of my hands is a type of moldable therapeutic plasticine. I call it “serious” putty, as there is nothing silly about it, and the way we “play” with it isn’t particularly fun.
She has me use it in various ways, but one of her favorites appears to be having me find and uncover increasingly smaller objects hidden within it. I doubt that at any point in my life I would’ve been able to say exactly what I’d be doing at this age, but I definitely wouldn’t have guessed I’d be playing hide-and-seek with wooden beads and Play-Doh. I suppose fate really meddled in my best-laid schemes.
Then again, I never really had any schemes, and I don’t think I actually believe in fate, so I doubt I could say that it meddled in my plans at all. I can say for sure that multiple sclerosis (MS) did, though.
I never used to be one to make a bucket list, for the same reason I never really made New Year’s resolutions. I never had a list of things to accomplish before I got too old or too “unalive,” but even if I had, I think MS would’ve changed it all anyway. It’s a bit ironic that I didn’t have a list before my diagnosis over a decade ago, but I have one now. Since this disease makes it hard to plan even 20 minutes from now, much less 20 years, making a list might seem illogical and even impossible, but I do actually have an MS bucket list.
In my lifetime, I’d like to see a cure for MS. I remain skeptical that even if one were found tomorrow, it would help me very much. But in that case, it wouldn’t really be for me anyway. I know the statistics, and I know I haven’t increased my children’s odds of having this ailment much, but I would like for them to never have to worry about getting MS.
I don’t mean for that to come across as self-centered. The same thing goes for every man, woman, and child on the planet. I think we can all agree that the world would be a better place without MS.
I’d also like to see improved and more effective treatments for MS before I shuffle off this mortal coil. Some new treatments have been developed since my diagnosis, so I think this is an item that likely will happen.
And while it might not be certain to happen, a therapy that repairs the damage caused by MS lesions is another thing I optimistically have on my list. Stopping the disease process would be quite an accomplishment, but reversing it, even by a little, would be nothing short of miraculous.
While I patiently await these things, I’d also like to see improvements in assistive devices for people who are disabled by the disease. The perfect ones would have to be made with the input of the users, though. Using myself as an example, I’m not an amputee, nor am I paraplegic or quadriplegic. But I must adapt tools and other devices that are made for people with other disabilities to my own needs. Necessity may be the mother of invention, but disability is its cruel stepmother. Considering the pace of technological and mechanical advances, I feel really good about having this item on my MS bucket list.
The last thing on my list is a vital part of all the others. Anything I’d like to see happen with MS in my lifetime has raising awareness at its core. I’ve written previously about how my concept of that phrase has changed over time. It doesn’t entail merely knowing what the words “multiple sclerosis” mean or simply having an idea of what the disease is. It’s knowing how much MS affects patients and the people closest to them. A better understanding of that is certain to prompt the type of innovation that will allow me to cross items off my MS bucket list.
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Ian R
Ben,
You are Mr MS.
Bucket Lists should be fun things - nothing to do with boring MS. Your bucket list should be:
- taking your girlfriend to a Coldplay concert (and getting filmed smooching). Hopefully your wife won’t see the coverage.
- throwing the first ball at an MLB game.
- flying over the Grand Canyon in a Chinook with the back door open.
- taking your wife to the most expensive restaurant in Alabama and going there in a Rolls Royce.
I’m not a fan of “raising awareness”. There are thousands of diseases in this world: 200 cancers, various dementias, Parkinson’s, ALS, eye diseases, Lupus, skin conditions…. Each could argue that there needs to be more awareness. I can understand it for diseases which are preventable / or where you can reduce the risk, but not for MS. The chance of a man getting MS is one in a thousand ie pretty rare. Why does anyone else need to know about it? They can’t change anything. You could argue that raising awareness raises more money for research. But, Michael J Fox has raised almost $2 billion for Parkinson’s and I don’t hear of any game changing new treatments.
I am more hopeful on better treatments for MS. In the next year we’ll hear the results of a BTK inhibitor trial for PPMS. By the end of September a remyelination trial from Cambridge will report (fingers crossed).
Keep playing with that Play Doh. If you’re a good buy, I might buy you some Lego and a Mr Potato Head for Christmas.
Benjamin Hofmeister
Since I can't drive anymore, if I had a girlfriend and met her at a concert, my wife would have to drive me and something tells me that I wouldn't make it there alive.
I won't be throwing the first pitch anywhere, since my throwing technique resembles someone fighting off a bee with a broomstick, but maybe one of my sons will one day and I'll just live vicariously through him.
I doubt I'll find myself in the back of a chinook anytime soon, much less over the Grand Canyon. I was in a lot of those and even got to watch one midair refuel while I was a passenger and can't say that I cared for the experience that much.
https://18disabled.com/wildcats-and-spaghetti/
Finally, there's a few pricey restaurants in this state, but not very many rolls royces. Still, that's actually the most realistic thing for me on your whole list.
denise egan
A well written post, Benjamin
Benjamin Hofmeister
Thanks for reading it Denise!
Izzy Abbass
I'm glad to see your bucket list is much more inclusive of others. Mine isn't unless you include my wife who I'd like to join me on my bucket list. Top of my list - only thing really on my list - 4 more countries to visit so I can hit my goal of 50. That and maybe a few more nights of camping - but that requires my best friends - wife won't do that.
Benjamin Hofmeister
I would dearly love to do some more traveling, but I'm still real nervous about flying with a wheelchair.
Bonnie Porcelli
You hit the nail on its head.
Thanks for your voice.
Benjamin Hofmeister
You're very welcome Bonnie! Thanks for hearing it.
Jo
Totally understand the fight or flight thinking, I am currently in Scotland for three weeks for my sons 21st. I traveled that 40hr flight, 1 hr stop over in Dubai from Akl NZ. Arriving in Glasgow to then continue travel to Edinburgh just like everyone else, lol.
I tell myself, that I'm lucky, diagnosed 2007 with RRMS, recently told I've now got SPMS, I'm trying to live every day as best I can, just like everyone else tho my body tell me different. I totally understand your post. Thank you for letting me know that I'm not alone in this * MS journey. * replaces any word you want 💖