September 21, 2023 Columns by Benjamin Hofmeister Learning the hard way that with MS, no infection is routine I’ve never been one to worry too much about what my purpose in life is. It’s not that I’m incapable of being philosophical, or that I was ever too egotistical to think I needed one. I suppose…
September 7, 2023 Columns by Benjamin Hofmeister How do you define defiance while living with MS? Recently, I was asked about the design on the left side of my “Chairborne” banner. A friend from my previous occupation humorously noted that in the original graphic, there’s a skull in the center where the wheelchair now…
August 31, 2023 Columns by Benjamin Hofmeister With multiple sclerosis, hindsight is accurate — and often unkind “Being diagnosed later in life is like watching a TV show with a huge plot twist revealed at the end of the season and then rewatching it with this new knowledge, picking up on all the foreshadowing and…
August 24, 2023 Columns by Benjamin Hofmeister Living with MS can often feel like being lost in the woods Years before joining the Army crossed my mind, I was a Boy Scout. We learned all sorts of skills, earned merit badges, and, of course, spent lots of time hiking and camping. I have many fond memories of…
August 17, 2023 Columns by Benjamin Hofmeister Parachuting my way through this life with MS Ten minutes away from the drop zone, we stood up and began the final preparations for the jump. The aircraft flew in anything but a straight line as it turned, banked, and swiftly changed altitude. This unpredictable flying technique…
August 10, 2023 Columns by Benjamin Hofmeister Multiple sclerosis makes it tough to deal with the heat of the dog days I like to look up. No, I’m not referring to my disposition, although I do consider it to be an improvement over what it once was. I’m actually pretty sunny, if you happen to think of “sunny” as…
August 3, 2023 Columns by Benjamin Hofmeister As my kids head back to school, I must prepare for inevitable illnesses This morning, at an unholy hour, our family awoke to the sound of alarm bells. Well, not bells, but rather the gentle yet insistent sound of one of Alexa’s alarms. Actually, we changed the name of our…
July 27, 2023 Columns by Benjamin Hofmeister Why it’s strangely comforting that MS doctors don’t know everything I’m not a doctor, just a patient. And depending on whom you ask, I’m not a very good one, either — unless you happen to be fond of lots of questions. I was a medic in the U.S.
July 20, 2023 Columns by Benjamin Hofmeister In life with multiple sclerosis, self-care is anything but selfish About three years before my multiple sclerosis (MS) diagnosis and subsequent retirement, I found myself in Iraq preparing for a mission. I was going out with a different team from another branch of the U.S. military, and the…
July 13, 2023 Columns by Benjamin Hofmeister Multiple sclerosis has made my once-dominant hand less so I am not left-handed! No, I’m not channeling Westley or Inigo from “The Princess Bride,” just clarifying a common — and fair — assumption. While I now do nearly everything left-handed, including eating, drinking, and even typing…
July 5, 2023 Columns by Benjamin Hofmeister With a disabling condition, seeking help is part of independence I must look like I need help all the time. I don’t own a shirt or any other article of clothing that says so, and I don’t think I have a helpless look on my face, either. I…
June 29, 2023 Columns by Benjamin Hofmeister Living with MS is not just ‘all or nothing,’ but I kind of wish it were A few — OK, many — years ago, I played the lead in a production of “Oklahoma!” Don’t get excited; it wasn’t on Broadway or anything like that. It was a high school production, and I suspect I…
June 22, 2023 Columns by Benjamin Hofmeister The right support is essential when you have multiple sclerosis I didn’t seek support immediately after my diagnosis of multiple sclerosis (MS). To be fair, MS was just an annoyance to me at the beginning. It was simply a set of symptoms, and I was initially…
June 15, 2023 Columns by Benjamin Hofmeister It’s not what I expected, being a parent with a disability Einstein said that time is relative, and as I age (gracefully, I hope), I’ve found that to be true. For example, I frequently find myself referring to events that occurred a decade or more in the past…
June 8, 2023 Columns by Benjamin Hofmeister The best lessons on MS come from the experience of people with MS In the not-too-distant past, a friend shared a video clip from a competitive event with a few of us. One of the competitors had a shock of gray hair and was slowed by a noticeable limp. “Watch how smooth…
June 1, 2023 Columns by Benjamin Hofmeister With MS, giving it your ‘some’ adds up to enough Special Forces Assessment and Selection (SFAS) — a training program for entry into the U.S. Army Special Forces — is rare, even among military courses. It has grueling physical aspects, but the majority of it is mental. It’s…
May 25, 2023 Columns by Benjamin Hofmeister Multiple sclerosis deserves to be complained about My shoelaces keep coming untied, my compression socks are bunched up, I bumped my shins with the vacuum again, and the shower was too hot this morning. Confused? Don’t be. I’m just getting in the spirit of…
May 18, 2023 Columns by Benjamin Hofmeister Multiple sclerosis is unique and requires personalized care I’ve always liked the phrase “go with what you know.” I suppose I understood it to mean “stick to what you’re good at” or simply, “stay in your lane.” Recently, though, I stumbled on a slightly different meaning that…
May 11, 2023 Columns by Benjamin Hofmeister Multiple sclerosis and speech are not on friendly terms for me I used to sing — a lot. Don’t worry, I didn’t miss my true calling. I could carry a tune, but that was about it. I was loud, and just like arguing, volume can make up for a lack…
September 28, 2023 Columns by Benjamin Hofmeister With multiple sclerosis, don’t worry about asking stupid questions