How Searching for Silver Linings Can Help Ease Your Way

How Searching for Silver Linings Can Help Ease Your Way

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It’s frightening to feel sick most of the time. Frightening, scary, overwhelming, unnerving, and hellish. Whichever negative words you choose are the right ones to describe how it feels to live with MS. People with MS are snowflakes, and our emotions are quite often the same.

After three-plus decades of living with this monster, I’m exhausted from wondering how else my body might fail me. There’s an emotional crisis we face when MS forces itself on us. We grieve for the loss of our bodily functions as we watch others lead normal lives. Sometimes I try to remember what it feels like to be illness-free, but I can’t. It’s now a distant memory.

Anyone familiar with my story knows the physical and emotional challenges I’ve battled since early last year. As if struggling with pain and off-the-charts stress about new digestive diagnoses weren’t enough, my MS is rearing its ugly head with a full-blown exacerbation.

My hormones are raging, fighting to take me down the all-too-familiar road of depression. It’s a black hole I visited years ago after an attack of kidney stones and gallstones that simultaneously brought me to my knees. Together, they made childbirth seem almost like a walk in the park.

After our move in 2016, I needed to find new doctors. In today’s healthcare climate, that’s easier said than done. With the Health Insurance Portability and Accountability Act of 1996 (HIPAA) — the U.S. legislation that provides data privacy and security provisions for safeguarding medical information — changing doctors involves more than a simple phone call. If you want your medical records or scans released to your new doctor, you must send your former doctor and imaging center a signed letter granting permission to do so.

So far, I’ve mailed written requests to my internist, neurologist, gynecologist, urologist, and gastroenterologist.

I spend more time speaking and visiting doctors, living in pain, feeling fatigued, worrying about symptoms, and trying to remain calm than I do living any semblance of a real life. Fulfilling my work obligations is now laborious, and my new medications have not only clouded my cognition but have also blurred my vision.

Most days are spent at home with the only human connection being my husband and son, plus our cleaning lady every other week. I would barely recognize my previous life before MS.

I’ve always tried to find silver linings despite adversity. They’re not always easy to find, but I think they’re important because life would feel pretty bleak without them. I hope my silver linings apply to your particular situation:

New medical team: My new gastroenterologist believes in complementary medicine, and recommended I find a registered dietician specializing in my specific diagnoses. My digestive issues are not only linked to what I eat but also to MS/autoimmune disease. Now I’m eating healthier than ever, and so far it’s eased some pain, I’ve lost a little weight, and I’m sleeping better. These are beneficial for all of my conditions.

Education: I’m reading, researching, and speaking to others in the digestive community, many who also live with an autoimmune disease.

Cognition: The reading and research are fueling my cognitive skills with a constant workout.

Friends and family: I’m blessed with incredible support from friends and family who allow me to lean on them. I’m not sure what I’d do without their kind and caring ways.

Homebody: Since I’m home more than usual, I’m able to catch up on some reading. I’ve read several interesting books and many online articles about a variety of subjects, including MS and gut health.

Essential oils: A friend of mine sent me a box of essential oils along with a diffuser. I use it day and night. So far peppermint, lemon, and lavender are my favorites. I’m not sure how effective they are in calming my mind or promoting better sleep, but I noticed after rubbing some peppermint on my temples and the back of my neck it helped rid of a nasty headache. Plus, everything smells so good!

I hope my silver linings will help you find your own. As Henri Matisse said:

“There are always flowers for those who want to see them.”

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Cathy Chester is an award-winning health advocate and freelance writer whose flourishing blog, AnEmpoweredSpirit.com, focuses on staying positive despite a diagnosis of Multiple Sclerosis. Diagnosed with RRMS in 1986 (before any approved medications or the Internet) Cathy knows how frightening this unpredictable disease can be. Today she helps others manage their MS journey by using her unique skills as a writer, patient and certified health advocate. She is a contributor and moderator for MultipleSclerosis.net and also writes for Multiple Sclerosis News Today, Mango Health and PatientsLikeMe. Her work has been featured in National Multiple Sclerosis Society’s Momentum magazine, NARCOMS Now, MSAA and was published in countless online publications including Midlife Boulevard, BetterAfter50, The Mighty, BlogHer, SheSpeaks, Erma Bombeck Writers’ Workshop and The Huffington Post . Cathy lives in New Jersey with her loving husband and son and two adorable cats.
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Cathy Chester is an award-winning health advocate and freelance writer whose flourishing blog, AnEmpoweredSpirit.com, focuses on staying positive despite a diagnosis of Multiple Sclerosis. Diagnosed with RRMS in 1986 (before any approved medications or the Internet) Cathy knows how frightening this unpredictable disease can be. Today she helps others manage their MS journey by using her unique skills as a writer, patient and certified health advocate. She is a contributor and moderator for MultipleSclerosis.net and also writes for Multiple Sclerosis News Today, Mango Health and PatientsLikeMe. Her work has been featured in National Multiple Sclerosis Society’s Momentum magazine, NARCOMS Now, MSAA and was published in countless online publications including Midlife Boulevard, BetterAfter50, The Mighty, BlogHer, SheSpeaks, Erma Bombeck Writers’ Workshop and The Huffington Post . Cathy lives in New Jersey with her loving husband and son and two adorable cats.

6 comments

  1. Frank Yakupcak jr. says:

    Thanks for your story, I’m in year 18 with relapsing remitting MS. The fight of a lifetime, and I’ve got this. Been through years of injecting medications, from Avonex,rebif.betaseron,copaxone, to a pill finally, Tec Fidera(Dimethyl Fumate). I gave each one ^ a year trial of hell, through vomiting daily and or diarrhea, along with all the MS aches and pains. I would not be able to do this without the grace of God, and the loving support of my wife and family.

    • Cathy Chester says:

      Thanks for sharing your story, Frank. I am so glad you have the support you need and the positive attitude will help you along this crazy journey. Best to you always, Cathy

      • Beth DeMartino says:

        Thank you for sharing the importance of a positive attitude. I was diagnosed with MS 25 years ago and the support of my husband, family, and friends has been a silver lining. Also, the camaraderie of the MS support group I belong to has been wonderful…happy, positive individuals willing to share their struggles and triumphs. Keeping a sense of humor is also important. I tell my colleagues that “we could be butt ugly and have MS, then we’d be in trouble”…always brings a smile!!

  2. Joy Johnson says:

    I continue to follow your excellent writing, your story and good advice. You have contributed so much to the MS community. Thank you for continuing to do so despite your own personal challenges.

  3. Hello !
    I’m 65 and newly diagnosed with what is looking to be PP. I’m still pretty functional and can do most things, for now. Yesterday, however I was at the grocery store and became completely overwhelmed. Looking for something I missed on my list was almost impossible. I found myself just standing in an aisle frozen. I suppose my lining would be that somehow I managed to make it home with a trunk full of groceries. It was a very frightening and sad experience.

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