The Importance of Caring for Caregivers

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“Coping with Caregiver Burnout When Caring for A Person with Neurodegenerative Disease: A Guide for Caregivers
,” published in the April 2017 issue of the Archives for Physical Medicine and Rehabilitation, is intended to give better insight into caregiver burnout, and what might be done to lessen this problem. The article points out that there is much more to burnout than physical exhaustion in caring for someone else. Caregivers also may experience emotional and psychological changes when having to take care of someone else, and it is a potential problem that needs to be addressed.

The article discusses the problem of attitudes changing when someone becomes a full-time caregiver, and how that impacts everyone. A part of the review that struck me was the observation that being a caregiver might “negatively affect the way you care for your loved one. You may change from a positive and caring person to a negative and unconcerned one.”

Deborah Backus, PT, PhD, of the Shepherd MS Institute, Atlanta Georgia, was one of the co-authors and  also is on the Research Committee for iConquerMS, a patient-driven research initiative of which I am involved. I asked her about the interest in the caregiver topic. She also is the president-elect of the American Congress of Rehabilitation Medicine, and said that organization’s communication committee has written education pages geared to the person with a condition or disease, and are hopeful they will be shared through their clinicians.

#WeHaveMS

When I asked what made this an important topic, Backus said she had conducted an interview as part of a follow-up to a physical therapy study, and its impact on improving the person’s life. The person’s caregiver also was present in the room, and Backus noticed that each person was giving a different response to her questions.

She asked questions such as: “Did it make you feel better?” “Did you notice a change in functions?” and “Did you like doing this activity?” An example she shared was when she asked, “Do you have more strength after this exercise?” The patient answered “No, not really,” but the caregiver spoke up, and said there was a difference in the amount of effort needed to make the transfer from the wheelchair.

Backus said it occurred to her that she really needs to listen not only to her patient, but also “For every study I need to consider not only what we are doing to impact the person, we must also include how it impacts the caregiver.” Because of this realization, moving forward, all studies written by the Shepherd MS Center now include a section on caregiver impact.

This idea echoes the theme of a Twitter campaign my neurologist started with the hashtag #WeHaveMS, which is meant to acknowledge everyone in a home is affected by the disease and we must look more at the big picture.

Tips for lessening stress

Many of the points about caregiver burnout are familiar ones and based on common sense. They include the stress of financial concerns, and being disconnected from other people because of the demands of caregiving (social isolation). As part of this education article, the authors put together a list of proactive tips to lessen the stress of caregiving.  That list includes:

  • Learning about the disease, its treatments and what types of outside support might be available
  • Discussing options for treatment decisions with your loved one and their healthcare team, so everyone is in on the conversation
  • Taking care of yourself physically by eating right and getting physical activity away from the ongoing caregiving responsibilities
  • Finding outlets for your stress, including support groups for caregivers, and allow family and friends to cover for you to take a break. Looking for help or talking about the strain of caregiving is not a sign of weakness or disrespect to your partner.

Acceptance as a key tool

Acceptance of the disease process by the caregiver also is identified as an important part of keeping caregiver stress in check. “It may be challenging, but it is important to accept your loved one’s disease process. Acceptance can help you live in the present moment and make decisions for yourself and your loved one,” the authors wrote.

How do you find the peace to accept the continual change of a loved one with a chronic disease? The authors suggest relaxation methods like music, meditation, yoga and therapy as ways to create positive thinking.

Backus said the Shepherd Center staff is looking for grant money to support developing a caregiver mentor program, because it is known there is a “reduction in quality of life and health in caregivers who take care of people with a chronic condition, and we inevitably can end up with two people who aren’t well if we don’t find ways to take care of the caregivers, too.” It is encouraging to know engaging caregivers in discussions like this might improve the quality of life for everyone.

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Lori avatar

Lori

This article on caregivers was so helpful to me, the one with MS, I am currently looking for an affordable lift chair so my caregiver can save his back, any ides? I looked at Reom
Regards
Lori

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Elizabeth avatar

Elizabeth

This is so true. I care for my husband who has PPMS and quickly went downhill once diagnosed. Three years after his diagnosis and me taking over as his full-time care taker I started to get sick and was eventually diagnosed with fibromyalgia. I do think the stress of his care assisted in leading to my own sickness. I now have to work twice as hard to take care of myself and him. Four years after my diagnosis it has started to get easier, but it's always a struggle.

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Jane McCrae

I am the one with MS - since 2005. My husband is my primary care-giver. I make him go play golf at least 3x weekly . I sit in my lift chair and only get up to use facilities or let the dog out with the help of my walker. Things are great!

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