Opening People’s Eyes to Our Invisible MS
Those of us who have MS know that our disease can be invisible. We don’t always stumble when we walk. We don’t always use some sort of an assistive device that would alert people to our illness. So what we often get from those who don’t know better are those “but you look so good” remarks. Sometimes we even get them from friends and family who think that we’re faking our illness, who call us lazy or who simply reject us.
Examples of this pop up in online discussions all the time.
I’m so frustrated. Not 1 person understands how it is to be sick. I’m tired of explaining
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The thing I run into is EVERYONE is a doctor but NO ONE really knows anything. Unless you are going through this you really have no clue.
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I often wish there was a way I could share the daily pain I endure with somebody, so they could understand better what it’s like. I mean, just for one minute. Fact is, I have people around me whom say they understand, but I don’t believe they can truly grasp the level of discomfort/pain I suffer daily. How could they since they don’t have MS?
Helping to see the invisible
I’ve just discovered that there’s an organization devoted to supporting people with invisible diseases, like MS. Its goal is to open the eyes of people who can’t or refuse to see what we go through. It’s the Invisible Disabilities Association, or IDA, and each year in October it promotes Invisible Disabilities Week.
The IDA, which has been around only a few years, creates programs and products that are aimed at educating people who don’t believe that our pain is real. Its outreach includes a blog, a Facebook page, and a YouTube channel.
Pamphlet image courtesy of IDA.
The products the organization sells includes something that I think I’m going to buy and keep in my glove compartment. It’s a three-fold booklet (shown at right) that seems perfect for handing to the folks who give you a dirty look because you’re parking in a handicapped spot. They also have bumper stickers and car magnets with similar messages.
Multiple sclerosis ID cards
Unfortunately, none of the IDA awareness items is disease-specific. Since, sooner or later, we’re all likely to be accused of being drunk when we stumble or hear “had a big night?” as our eyes drop from fatigue at 10 in the morning, a wallet-size card explaining our MS symptoms would be nice to have. And I’ve found some.
In the United States, the Rocky Mountain MS Center provides an ID card for a $10 fee and a doctor’s certification. It shows your contact info on one side and a list of MS symptoms on the other. The RM MS Center tells me it has sent these all over the country.
ID card
In the U.K., the MS Society offers a free card via its website.
A photo ID card is available in Australia from MS, (formerly the Australian Multiple Sclerosis Society), via its website.
A Google search will turn up some others.
Cards and pamphlets and wrist bracelets and invisible disease weeks won’t be enough to open some people’s eyes, of course, but maybe they’ll help improve the vision of at least a few.
You’re invited to follow my personal blog at www.themswire.com.
(Featured image courtesy of IDA)
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charles
my walking is sometimes slightly affected, and definitely more so when i get fatigued, but the majority of my disability is mental. really looking forward to a cure.
Meredith
Why would anyone want to share pain?
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Sharing pain is one way some people find some comfort and relief from silent suffering, thinking or feeling that no one can possibly either understand or care about them. When the circumstances of life present us with previously unknown symptoms of physical or emotional upheaval. There is an old saying that when two carry the load, the burden is halved. Not everyone feels they need to share or reveal their difficulties but for many more, having someone to talk to or even just share a moment of trust is vital to their health and well-being. "Sharing your pain" doesn't mean actually having someone experience the same physical issues, but it does mean that there is someone in your life who will try to understand how your difficulties affect or upset you, and feeling confident they will be there for you, no matter how bad things may become. No one knows if or when they may find themselves facing problems or challenges, however having someone on your side can often make the difference between doing your best to carry on and prosper, or throwing in the towel and giving up entirely.
Beverly Frazier
I am so pleased, and happy to see your very detailed statement about silent disease issues for patients such as Multiple Sclerosis. This is such a hard battle to go through because just as you noted here, even your own family starts to think we are faking, or just seeking attention.
I get so sick and tired of trying to explain my issues to people repeatedly; I wanted to find a way to get the message out, so others would at least try to understand what we go through without the need to talk about it so much that it makes it look like we are whining.
I have created a campaign of my own to help The Multiple Sclerosis Center of Atlanta, not only get the word out about Multiple Sclerosis, and how they can help with treatment, education, and research, I also help spread the word about some of the events they hold for fund raising, support meetings.
Please feel free to check out their website: www.mscatl.org Turkey Tennis is in a few days.