The perfect response: Endless support after my diagnosis of MS

When my general practitioner first spoke about the possibility of a diagnosis of multiple sclerosis (MS) in February 2022, I walked out of his office. I broke down in tears; I was terrified.

At that instant, my first thought was, “OK, so how long do I have left?” I had no working knowledge of MS at that time.

My only thought was to phone my wife for support. My tears hadn’t stopped when she answered, but somehow, the words managed to find a way out of my mouth. ‘’The doctor has told me to expect the diagnosis of MS,’’ I explained, without a second thought. Her reply was total understanding and acceptance.

“You’ve got this. We’re all right beside you,’’ she said. “I love you.’’

The difference support makes

Those were the exact words I needed to hear at that time. They made me feel strong and almost lit a fire in my belly. My tears stopped because my fear had just become my passion, one that gave me courage to keep moving forward and stop MS from having the power to control my life.

We agreed to meet at my dad’s house at the end of the call to discuss what the doctor had told me. While I was walking there, all sorts of thoughts and feelings arose; the biggest was determination.

Once we’d all sat and spoken, it was clear my family would do everything to support me. Nothing would be too much. That helped me see I wasn’t alone, no matter what happened from that moment on. As strange as it might seem, I started to feel calm because although my life was changing with every moment, the people closest to me had my back and made the potential diagnosis seem much less scary.

In August 2022, it was confirmed that I had MS. Since I’d been warned that was possible, those words didn’t come as a shock. Again, everyone around me met the news by doing everything they could to help, which filled me with hope and gratitude.

Since talking to people on social media about my story, I’ve been asked by some caregivers if I have any advice for someone supporting a newly diagnosed person. My biggest tip is to always listen and show that no matter what is happening, you’re there.

In my experience, the best support is sometimes just a friendly face with no judgments, just care and compassion. Learning that we have MS can be incredibly frightening and make us feel immediately lonely; having someone listen and be with us can make all the difference.

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