Learning the hard way that with MS, no infection is routine

I’ve never been one to worry too much about what my purpose in life is. It’s not that I’m incapable of being philosophical, or that I was ever too egotistical to think I needed one. I suppose I just thought that if I had a purpose, it’d work itself out, whether or not I put any effort into it.

Since becoming a parent, my purpose mostly seems to be ensuring that my children thrive. Because I have three boys and half their DNA comes from me, it sometimes feels more like I’m ensuring they survive to adulthood, despite their best efforts. To me, my multiple scars are the perfect blueprint of what not to do, but my kids often don’t see it that way. In typical childlike disconnect, they seem to feel that either those things could never happen to them, or that my original plans simply need improvement.

I wish I could tell you that because of the wisdom that comes with age, I’m past that sort of thinking. It wouldn’t be true, though. My latest bout of foolishness didn’t leave any visible scars to point to as I relate this tale, but it left an imprint on me. Hopefully, there’s a lesson here worth passing on to others. Bear with me, please.

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I haven’t felt quite right in what seems like months. I’ve had worse than normal fatigue (whatever “normal” is), increased weakness, and an all-around unwell feeling. My urine was a bit cloudy with an unusual odor, so I suspected a urinary tract infection (UTI). There was no pain, though, which I always assumed was a big part of one. So when an initial urinalysis came back negative, I wrote off the possibility.

I know that my multiple sclerosis (MS) increases my risk of developing UTIs, and I have the wisdom of experience from fellow columnist John Connor right in front of me. Still, like a child, I didn’t believe it’d ever be a part of my experience. Unfortunately, it is now — and it was quite an experience.

Apparently, a UTI doesn’t like being ignored, as mine spread up to my kidneys. A low-grade fever and chills took hold, but the idea that the kids would bring a respiratory infection home from school was firmly in my mind, so I assumed that was it. My symptoms were worse the next day, with the addition of straining to (incompletely) empty my bladder, so I grudgingly allowed an appointment at the local clinic to be made.

I need to pause here because it’s starting to sound like I did any of this process on my own. My dear wife saved the day — and me from myself — as usual. Bless her, she hasn’t even said “I told you so!” though she certainly has the right to.

The lab results at the clinic sent us to the emergency room, and I was admitted to the hospital for a three-night stay. Eight liters of saline brought my blood pressure back up, and IV antibiotics got the pyelonephritis under control. For what I hope are forgivable reasons, I didn’t feel up to completing a column last week, and the MS News Today staff let me slide. I hope you will, too.

I also hope you learn from my example. It may have ended with me safely back at home, but it’s definitely an example of what not to do. Maybe I do have a purpose after all. Like the demotivational poster says, perhaps the purpose of my life is to serve as a warning to others.

Take care of yourself.

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