My Solemn Truth on Pain and Suffering

My Solemn Truth on Pain and Suffering

Patiently Awakened

As some have said, “Pain is inevitable; suffering is optional.” I believe I am an optimistic, grateful, and spiritual woman. With that said, I must acknowledge that I have an irresolute reaction when I hear that suffering is optional. Suffering is defined as the state of undergoing pain, distress, or hardship. Thus, according to the definition, it is relevant to say I have been long-suffering.

Heart disease introduced me to suffering long ago, and multiple sclerosis keeps us acquainted. I am not ashamed to admit this. Losing loved ones to chronic, terminal illnesses, I have also witnessed their suffering. It is my belief that none of us choose to suffer. The intent of this week’s column is to avow that although I am not of the opinion that suffering is optional, I do believe that even in our suffering there are lessons to learn. I will share some of mine.

Suffering teaches me patience, reminding me that my body is a masterpiece not crafted by me. I have to give it time to recover and recuperate. It also teaches me that I can’t always choose what comes to me. Things happen. Suffering causes me to actively practice empathy. It allows me to view situations from the other person’s perspective. It teaches me that I don’t have to travel the same path to understand the plight of another.

Pain has a universal language. It is awful. Suffering strengthens my sense of hope. Yes. It does. I encourage myself saying that tomorrow will be different if I can just get there. I remember that my current space is not my final destination. Suffering teaches me to reserve judgment. I recollect that a few words of encouragement can go a long way because I fight battles daily. Tears can speak volumes and smiles may hide great agony.

My pain and illnesses have changed me. Both pain and suffering have fortified me to walk in my truth and share my story. It has made me uncomfortably comfortable. What a conundrum! My truth is not always pretty. It does not come wrapped in a decorated package. At times, it is a tangled, mangled mess and I can say that I am OK with that. Would I choose this? Of course not. Yet, my greatest lessons have been learned in the throes of illness.

As I have written, I could not appreciate joy if I did not experience pain. I would not know the value of peace if I did not suffer at times. I would not know the power of my voice if I did not have to seek it. Finally, I would not know the sanctity of life if I did not have to fight for mine.

In closing, I totally agree that pain is inevitable. I must also say that suffering is not my option, yet at times, it too is a part of my existence. I encompass both. This is my solemn truth.

“ I am the face of a survivor, I am all of my pain and glory.
Not always picture perfect, yet I am alive to tell my story.’’
– “A Survivor’s Anthem,” by Teresa I. Wright-Johnson

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Teresa I. Wright-Johnson is a married Multiple Sclerosis Warrior and Congenital Heart Disease Survivor. She was born with a heart murmur and an Aortic Valve Defect. Teresa has endured multiple open heart surgeries and cardiac procedures. She was diagnosed with MS in November of 2014 and is under the care of an esteemed MS Specialist. Teresa knows there is a calling on her life and she fully embraces that. Teresa uses her illnesses as opportunities to further rely on her faith, walk in her truth, raise awareness and educate others. She believes that she is purposely on purpose. Teresa offers a solid background in Criminal Justice and Social Services. A graduate of Rutgers University in New Brunswick, NJ and a retired Sr. Parole Officer for the State of New Jersey, Teresa uses her life to empower and inspire others. She embodies community service, is a member of Zeta Phi Beta Sorority, Inc and is active with several other organizations. Teresa aspires to be a light that shines in dark places. Teresa is an author, poet, inspirational speaker and a community activist. She enjoys writing, reading, listening to music and spending time with her family and friends. Teresa acknowledges the unwavering love of her wonderful parents throughout her life and her supportive and loving husband Marvin who is beside her through every trial and triumph.
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Teresa I. Wright-Johnson is a married Multiple Sclerosis Warrior and Congenital Heart Disease Survivor. She was born with a heart murmur and an Aortic Valve Defect. Teresa has endured multiple open heart surgeries and cardiac procedures. She was diagnosed with MS in November of 2014 and is under the care of an esteemed MS Specialist. Teresa knows there is a calling on her life and she fully embraces that. Teresa uses her illnesses as opportunities to further rely on her faith, walk in her truth, raise awareness and educate others. She believes that she is purposely on purpose. Teresa offers a solid background in Criminal Justice and Social Services. A graduate of Rutgers University in New Brunswick, NJ and a retired Sr. Parole Officer for the State of New Jersey, Teresa uses her life to empower and inspire others. She embodies community service, is a member of Zeta Phi Beta Sorority, Inc and is active with several other organizations. Teresa aspires to be a light that shines in dark places. Teresa is an author, poet, inspirational speaker and a community activist. She enjoys writing, reading, listening to music and spending time with her family and friends. Teresa acknowledges the unwavering love of her wonderful parents throughout her life and her supportive and loving husband Marvin who is beside her through every trial and triumph.

4 comments

  1. Billy Sahm says:

    Do you think that when they asked George Washington for ID that he just whipped out a quarter?

    Hi Teresa,

    Thanks for your good piece.

    I have pains in my arms and/or legs at almost every moment. I didn’t need them to experience joy or

    I cry or growl at times, but I smile more. Music, movies, food, friends and family help AND the “bee stings” constantly as well.

    (Watch https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UUP_aC5-bkM for up to 7 minutes, you might get inspired like I do.)

    Love, Billy in D.C.

  2. RW says:

    Beautifully written. It’s easy to close off ones self and ones feelings to pain and suffering. I know because I did it. It was a kind word of encouragement from a complete stranger that broke open my heart to allow love and light to enter again.
    Thank you for reminding all of us ~ not of what we’ve lost ~ but of everything that we can gain 🙂

  3. Patricia Mcgrath says:

    Well said. We take the good and the pain about all types of pain. Share,learn,grow,stay open, share your experience and just do your best.

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