MS Patient Argues Over Where She Had Parked — And Won!

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We all know how difficult it can be to find an accessible parking spot — one that allows us to park and get from our car to where we’re going with a minimum number of steps. There aren’t many of these spots in most parking lots, and sometimes the existing ones are located far from where we want to be.

It’s no surprise that one of us might be tired and frustrated enough from looking for a spot close to the destination to just pull up and park where it says: “No Parking.”

It is a surprise, however, when one of us does that, argues with a police officer who wants to write a ticket — and wins. So, with her permission, I’m sharing a post written by Pamela Pavlisko in the “We’re F**kin MS Warriors” Facebook group.

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Pamela truly is a warrior.

“This morning I had an exchange with a police officer in a shopping center that has inadequate parking for disabled persons. I think everyone who has experienced falling face first on pavement knows it’s not something you want to repeat. Because of this, when I go to stores and what not that does not have proper HC spots, I’ll park illegally I’ll accept the ticket or tow if it means that I’ll be safe.

“With that said, when I left the store the officer was outside and said, is this your car, I said yes, he proceeded to tell me there are HC spots and pointed waaay down at the end of the lot.

“He asked for my license, I knew I was about to get scolded & schooled on parking – I was having none of that… I quickly interjected and began to ask him if he has ever fallen face first on pavement, has he ever walked into a store and wondered how he was going to walk to his car? Does heat negatively affect him, does he become confused, and weak and dizzy? Does cold cause him pain and other issues? Please don’t tell me to park further away in a blasé tone when you have no idea what disabled people go through- he said he did.. I said if you did you would have never looked at those HC spots down there with a serious face and tell me that’s an adequate place for someone with a disability to park. I have just as much right to go in this store as an able bodied person and HC parking is a way I can maintain my life. Now I’m standing here talking to you about MY parking but you’ll walk right past a car illegally parked in an HC spot, when I call about people illegally parked HC spots, nothing happens, its not taken seriously, but I park here, in this spot out of the way, easier for me because of inadequate parking and I’m being schooled on parking? I said that’s wrong, I’m passionate about this, you can take me, arrest me, whatever but I’m not backing down. He gave me my license back and said.. come to our town hall meetings, they are Tuesday at 7 pm, say exactly what you just told me you are very compelling- I agree with you – have a good day.. smiled and walked away. I cried when he left- it felt so good to be heard!”

Bravo, Pamela! (And a pat on the back to the officer, as well.)

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Jeannie L Brown avatar

Jeannie L Brown

I am excited anytime we take a step forward for the treatment of those with a disability. I have MS and own my own home. My HOA denied me a patio. I filed Federal and State complaints. It took over one year but I now have my patio. It was a challenging battle that caused me quite a bit of unnecessary stress but hopefully the next person with a disability will not have trouble getting what he or she needs to enjoy his or her own home.

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Pamela Pavlisko

I was NOT backing down lol I haven't stopped parking there and intend on doing so until something changes. I also have no problem walking up to someone who is illegally parked in an HC spot and ask where their tag is.

I clearly see how HC spots give us disabled folks some freedom! If you take those spots- you take our freedom away.

Debi Wilson avatar

Debi Wilson

You are amazing Pamela and so articulate! Thank-you and kudos to the police officer as well! Thanks for sharing This story, Ed!


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