Columns Chairborne - A Column by Ben Hofmeister My Stubbornness Has Helped and Hindered Me in Life With MS My Stubbornness Has Helped and Hindered Me in Life With MS For Ben Hofmeister, a strong mental attitude has been key to overcoming obstacles by Benjamin Hofmeister | September 8, 2022 Share this article: Share article via email Copy article link Thereās a slight chance that I might be stubborn. I donāt really see it, but my wife, parents, siblings, relatives, friends, and former teammates all seem to think so. I personally think that theyāre mistaking my drive and strong willpower for stubbornness, but I suppose I respect their opinions enough to give them their due. All joking aside, I probably am a little stubborn, though I think itās completely subjective. If, from my perspective, it benefits me, I refer to it as being strong-willed, but if it doesn’t help, Iāll say Iām being stubborn. No matter what we choose to call it, that part of my personality played a large part in the events and achievements in my life. Sometimes it helped, sometimes it hindered, and sometimes it did a bit of both. Recommended Reading August 4, 2022 Columns by Benjamin Hofmeister How My MS Diagnosis Journey Became My Origin Story For example, I have never liked heights. I like them even less now that multiple sclerosis (MS) has taken away most of my sense of balance, but I was always afraid of high places. Despite this, right after Army basic training, I went to Airborne School and parachuted for nearly 20 years. I never enjoyed it, but I managed to stubborn my way through anyway because it was the gateway to other things I wanted to do, including the Ranger Indoctrination Program, Ranger School (where I stubbornly recycled twice), Special Forces Assessment and Selection, and the Special Forces Qualification Course. Actually, āstubborning my way throughā sort of sums up my experience in the military. Most guys who spend two decades in special operations look like action figures. I do not. I am not now, nor have I ever been, athletic, lean, or tall. What I am is strong-willed and determined. I relied more on that strong mental attitude and less on physical strength to overcome any hurdles in my way. But my stubbornness also took its toll. That same drive was responsible for my ignoring injuries and illnesses until I couldnāt anymore. It seemed to work, so when MS started to rear its head in 2009, I tried to ignore it, too. Slowing down on runs? No problem, Iāll just run harder. Trouble lifting my foot (which I now know was the beginning of foot drop)? Probably an old ankle injury that Iāve been putting off addressing. Iāll try barefoot running since it doesnāt require me to raise my toes or land on my heel. Difficulty going down stairs and downhill? Iāll compensate by going sideways, or even backward. I think that perhaps my stubborn unwillingness to face my unknown malady was really denial brought on by fear. Until multiple sclerosis, I had never encountered anything that I couldnāt overcome through sheer willpower and determination. The unknown and unbeatable was strange and terrifying to me, and when I tried to out-stubborn it at the beginning, it cost me time I can never get back. Maybe thereās a fine line between being stubborn and strong-willed, and maybe a little stubbornness can be a good thing. But being stubborn to the point of denial, or my past technique of thinking, “I can beat this so I donāt need to do anything until I get better,” is not the answer. Not giving up while maintaining a realistic ā yet optimistic ā view of the disease just might be. During my career in the military, the heroes held up for us to aspire to were those who didnāt give up in the face of adversity. They limped across the finish line, they kept going when going on seemed impossible. They might have actually been a little stubborn, but they didnāt give up or deny their adversity ā they endured it. I think those same kinds of people, the ones who endure the adversity of disease, are still my heroes. Note:Ā Multiple Sclerosis News TodayĀ is strictly a news and information website about the disease. It does not provide medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. This content is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice,Ā diagnosis, orĀ treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have read on this website. The opinions expressed in this column are not those ofĀ Multiple Sclerosis News TodayĀ or its parent company, BioNews, and are intended to spark discussion about issues pertaining to multiple sclerosis. Print This Page About the Author Benjamin Hofmeister Ben Hofmeister was diagnosed with primary progressive multiple sclerosis in 2014, ending a 22-year career in the U.S. Army, as both a Ranger and Green Beret. He gradually settled into a wonderful retired life in Anniston, Alabama, with his wife and their three boys. He couldnāt be happier. After being inspired by the writing of others with MS, he decided to add his own voice. His column is raw and honest, but sometimes sarcastic and pithy too. MS is a serious disease but a life with it doesnāt always have to be. Tags attitude, living with MS Comments Leave a comment Fill in the required fields to post. Your email address will not be published. Your Name Your Email Your Comment Post Comment
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