‘I’m Tired’ Does Not Mean ‘I Quit’

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Patiently Awakened

I made an unexpected appearance at the emergency room this week, which culminated in a short hospital stay. I have been ailing for weeks, making the conscious choice to live each day as best I can. Managing pain and combating emotions and illness in everyday life is difficult, as you know. The discomfort became intolerable and I was frightened. My hospital stay placed me in a familiar, somber mood. Who wouldn’t be? There were a million other places I would rather have been, like home with my husband.

My family and friends could see I was visibly saddened and I capitulated to the weariness that filled my mind and body. “I’m tired” I unsparingly stated. This led to an in-depth conversation with two of my dearest friends. Both explained the unrest they felt hearing me speak the words “I’m tired,” feeling as though I was giving up. Thus, the intent of this week’s column is to reiterate that “I’m tired” does not mean “I quit.”

More than usual, I proclaim, “I’m tired.” In reality, I am exhausted. Fighting the MS beast every day can be devitalizing. I am tired of not knowing what to expect, and I am tired of pretending that I am not tired. People sometimes view me differently than they view themselves. Although I am honored to be held in such high esteem and to be looked upon as a person of inspiration, strength, and courage, I cannot meet this expectation at all times. The presumption that I must handle everything that comes with grace, humor, and a smile is fictitious. It resonates well, but realistically, it has no merit.

I have a right and a need to confess my weariness. Acknowledging my place and my space is crucial. It demands attention and respect. I truly exalt in the ability to comfort others and offer words to quell the storms that are raging in their lives. However, I need the understanding and support offered to others. I must feel comfortable knowing that I can express my vulnerability in real time, as the moments happen. My heavy heart needs to be uplifted at times, and I look to my inner circle to do so.

I am tired. My weariness is not attributed to weakness, but results from my humanity. I am made of flesh, and my experiences will reflect the human condition and all that defines it. I believe that my strength is in knowing that I am fatigued and having the ability and desire to express it. By giving it a voice, I am simultaneously encouraging myself to continue on. Granting myself permission to rest in my weakness today empowers me to pick up the pieces and try again tomorrow.

To my family, friends, and all who love me. Please know that I am not giving up. I will march on. Confiding in you eases my burden. If, and when, I say that I am tired, please just offer an encouraging word or thought. Conceding in the moment is not a tragedy. It, too, is an act of self-care. My daily prayer is that I will remain here to experience life with you for as long as I am allowed. I am not giving up. You’re the reason I fight with such intensity. To fellow warriors and survivors of MS, chronic illness, and adversity: Rest if you must. There is no shame in weariness. We will rest and recoup. We will keep fighting. Tired? Yes. Still, I refuse to quit.

“I will stand by you, I will help you through
When you’ve done all you can do and you can’t cope
I will dry your eyes, I will fight your fight
I will hold you tight and I won’t let go.” (“I Won’t Let Go,” Rascal Flatts)

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Theresa avatar

Theresa

Oh,so true. Tired yes, to quit NO!

Thank you for sharing!

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Teresa Wright-Johnson

Hi Theresa!

Thanks for reading the column and for your response. We are tired indeed, but we will not quit! I wish you the best.

Teresa

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Carolyn avatar

Carolyn

Thank you for putting my thoughts into words. I, too, do not want to give up but need to understand my abilities and honor my limits. Communicating that to others who support me is so important!

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Beth avatar

Beth

Wow. Very beautifully written! I so relate. In my position, low on the totem pole... Makes it difficult to rest!

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Teresa Wright-Johnson

Hi Carolyn,
This was a difficult column to write. I wanted to explain yet not offend. It is so important that others realize our boundaries and limitations. We too need support and encouragement along the way. Thanks for sharing your experience and I appreciate you.

Teresa

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Teresa Wright-Johnson

Hi Beth,
Thanks you so much for your sentiment and for reading the column. I appreciate you. I wish you strength and peace. Take care of yourself.

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Indushree Rajasekhar

The whole of last week, everyday I have been saying I'm Tired. Thank you for sharing these strong and kind words. It fills me with hope and happiness.

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Teresa Wright-Johnson

Hi Indushree,
You're welcome! Thanks for reading the column and for your feedback. Continue to have hope, that has gotten me this far. I wish you many moments of joy and happiness. Blessings to you.

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Karen Junqueira

I am always tired. I get up in the morning feeling tired. How does one even start to explain the feeling? It's impossible for others to comprehend if they haven't gone through it themselves.
Going on is not a choice that you consciously make. Each day that the sun rises above our heads and family members around you start making demands on the abilities you have left, you simply go on. Perhaps that's a blessing in disguise. Without their demands, I'd probably keep laying down.

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