How MS molded my life and taught me to balance grit and grace

The obstacles I've endured have made me who I am today

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by Ahna Crum |

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As an active 3-year-old, I spent every minute of recess on the monkey bars. I was hyperfocused on getting to the other side. I’d fall and try again until my hands blistered from the hot metal in the Florida sun, and then repeat this cycle the next day.

Grit is defined as courage, resolve, and determination despite difficulty. My 3-year-old self showed tenacity in reaching her goal — an innate mental resolve that became essential. In 2006, at the age of 16, I was diagnosed with an aggressive form of relapsing-remitting multiple sclerosis (MS). For a decade, I fought for functionality against the disease, recovering from significant mobility issues, spasticity, and blindness from multiple bouts of optic neuritis.

I was determined to overcome every obstacle, relapse, and setback I faced with MS. After stumbling upon nutrition as an effective way to manage my mobility, I pursued a career in dietetics and pushed myself through college.

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From the outside looking in, I had grit. But by age 25, after graduating college, completing a 12-month dietetic internship, and not responding to any medication that had been recommended for me, I’d pushed myself as far as I could physically sustain. The mental fortitude I’d amassed to reach these goals came at a considerable physical cost, as I watched my future begin to fade. There were days I couldn’t get out of bed and days I needed help with self-care as severe spasticity, mobility, and vision issues returned with a vengeance.

That’s when I learned that grit without grace can be self-destructive. I treated life with MS just like those monkey bars, with persistence and an unrelenting mental fortitude, but my body desperately needed rest.

Grace is defined as elegance, refinement, or effortless beauty. To me, when living with a disease or disability, grace isn’t the absence of effort or a certain poise; rather, it encompasses kindness, compassion, and patience. That unequivocally includes self-compassion, acceptance of circumstances that are out of one’s control, and not becoming a slave to fear.

So to give myself grace, I loosened that white-knuckled grip I had on perfectionism and controlling every aspect of my life. I reached out for help, and I showed the reality of my life with MS instead of the illusion I was striving to achieve.

Finding ways to keep moving forward

Adding grace to the equation changed everything. In letting go, I landed on a community of support and a renewed faith that helped me continue pursuing my goal of a life without MS. In 2016, I had a hematopoietic stem cell transplant (HSCT) in Moscow.

MS molded my drive and determination and helped me stumble upon my career. HSCT shaped a new future to make that career possible. I’ve been relapse-free for about eight years, and that respite has allowed me to obtain my registered dietitian license and master’s degree in human nutrition and functional medicine. From the beginning, the experience of learning to control my own disease broadened into a passion for researching nutritional sciences. Now, post-HSCT, I’ve become deeply entrenched in working with autoimmune clients to support their journeys.

Since HSCT, I’ve found myself in this gap between health and overwhelming disability. My day-to-day deals with the damage MS left in its wake, complications from trying to treat the disease, and fear that the disease will return for an encore. I paid my dues in MS disability for over a decade and traded active disease for a battle with secondary adrenal insufficiency (resolved), hypothyroidism, and avascular necrosis (with joint replacements in my 20s).

Sometimes the pressure to succeed and make up for a lost decade can be overwhelming. But now, it’s the drive to make someone else’s journey easier, offer a helping hand, and provide a detour sign to avoid the same pitfalls I faced that keeps propelling me forward.

Through this column, I want to help you hold on to hope and find your motivation to keep pressing forward. I’ve got extra grit to share, and I hope we can remind each other to practice grace.

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Bess Coleman avatar

Bess Coleman

This article is so succinct, honest and relatable. I especially like the idea of grace. Thank you for writing this.

Joyce avatar


Ahna, (I like how you spell your name😊). I really enjoyed what you shared about giving yourself grace in your journey. I do not have MS myself but what you shared applies to everyone’s life, I believe. Thank you for sharing—I hope and pray it will help someone else. May God continue to help you everyday. ❤️



Hi Ahna
I’m 65 diagnosed at 24 now SPMS. Did HSCT Moscow 2015. Now use mobility scooter mostly after lots of falls. If you could tell me ONE food to avoid completely and ONE to embrace what would they be? thank you

Jenny avatar


Thank you very much. I think I had less grit, but learned some new inner resources, I wish you so well. Jenny

Michael Zeigler avatar

Michael Zeigler

Nice, heartfelt account of a young person growing older with MS. Very well stated, looking forward to more.

Sarah avatar


Monkey bars and merry go round were my go to activities as well as swings - any form of physical activity really - and winning the 100 yard dash! I won the physical award of excellence for 4 years in high school and wasn’t dxed with RRMS until 50 - I’m also deaf - we ate simple food growing up - and I did the same for my kids when growing up - I believe in what I call whole body care - we do need antibiotics for some illnesses, we do need faith teaching in any form , and we do need to stay away from processed foods and chemicals - if I was younger I would raise money for stem cell transplant- it’s been - almost 13 years now , and for the most part I have been stable, I look forward to reading more of your posts-

Megan avatar


Love your article Ahna! I am forever grateful to have shared our time in 2016 both undergoing HSCT and my MS also continues to be halted. Look forward to reading your articles x

Julie P avatar

Julie P

What a powerful and inspirational article!! I love the truth you shared about balancing grit and grace. I, too, can be guilty of too much grit and trying to "power through". But you're completely correct; that doesn't serve our healing at all. With MS, we need a new playbook, and I look forward to more insights from you in the future. Thank you for sharing your wisdom; you are a gifted writer.


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