The Morning After the Night Before

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Last Wednesday morning didn’t go according to plan.

I’m lackluster every Wednesday morn because Tuesday nights are my regular work gig at London’s Comedy Store. I laugh too much, drink too much, and don’t get home till about 11:30 p.m. Still, I had a good sleep. My new topper mattress means that my aching back no longer forces me out of bed!

I grabbed my bed lever to haul myself off the mattress and immediately knew something was off — even more off than usual. My power was severely diminished. Getting up was turning into a struggle.

It really wasn’t the moment for my body to misbehave. I was alone in the house. Both sons were at work and my wife was at the hairdresser to prepare for her mum’s funeral that Friday.

My wonderful mother-in-law’s kidneys started failing a couple of years ago. At first, drugs helped to ameliorate the situation. The kidney failure seemed like a process of aging; it certainly wasn’t due to any reckless, hedonistic lifestyle. At family gatherings, I had the bonus of a regular seated companion while everybody else twirled around in the social dance. Eluned had a wicked sense of humor and she appreciated risqué repartee. She often was my ace-in-the-hole. My wife would tell me off for being outrageous, but I’d point to her chortling mother and indicate a trumping!

My inability to get up wasn’t my first rodeo. I got this column by sending a comedic piece about falling to Multiple Sclerosis News Today. The rodeo metaphor aptly describes staying off the floor when you’ve got MS — it’s as exhausting and terrifying as riding a bucking bronco.

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When you walk around with MS, there is always the possibility of collapse. No matter how careful you are, the body fails and you just go down. Transferring between bed and chair turns into a slow, interminable struggle. Experience helps to quell panic: I keep my phone with me and try to end up in the most comfortable position possible. I managed that, sitting on the floor with my back against the side of the bed while clinging to my high-tech commode to keep me upright.

My new topper mattress may have granted sleep, but it proved my downfall because it doesn’t allow any sliding back, just an inexorable fall!

I calmly texted my wife, but she was in the midst of getting highlights and couldn’t move for at least an hour. She called the cavalry. Her brother and sister rocked up. They, too, were helping to arrange the funeral and look after their bereaved father. The sight of a 220-something-pound behemoth wearing only a T-shirt and an adult nappy wasn’t in their day’s plan. Still, perhaps the sight lightened their mood.

My brother-in-law tried for a direct lift, though I pointed out that likely wouldn’t work. Only my incredibly strong 22-year-old son has managed the task in recent times. Even the two in-laws’ combined efforts couldn’t do it.

I now have a lifting cushion, which is supposed to work with just one person helping. But when I’m dead weight, this is nigh impossible. Between the three of us, we somehow managed to get me high enough to sit on my chair.

With rest, I’d recover. They left.

Finally, I could have a catheterized wee. I hadn’t had a urinary tract infection (UTI) for months and months, but I thought it best to check anyway. I bought testing strips ages ago and have become something of a dab hand at it. I’ve worked out the chemistry and biology; I used to maintain my pool, and this is only a more complex examination of water quality.

Yes, I had a UTI, hence the collapse of strength. I immediately hit my supply of emergency antibiotics.

The UTI snuck up when I was thinking about anything but me.


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Michelle Cauthorn avatar

Michelle Cauthorn

Hello John,
I really enjoy reading your columns. God bless you and your family. I pray for your continued strength and look forward to reading more.


Jackie & Frank Hodges avatar

Jackie & Frank Hodges

Good morning, John,

I am a mother of a wonderful daughter who has relapse remission MS and she struggles with working and living alone. She says she has her good days and bad days! This week is not a good week for her. She just doesn't feel good and of course all the MS symptoms start. I am going to get her some of those bladder strips so she can tell if a UTI is causing this! You are very brave and I see her struggle with the challenges of living with MS can do! Thank you for sharing. Sincerely, Jackie

Deb Whitmore avatar

Deb Whitmore

we all have the most unique an complicated events happen to us! Right now I'm trying to remember how to pack the normal things plus all my every changing stuff, all my MS things. The loss of so many things, sure does hurt. Deb

Susan Bock avatar

Susan Bock

I am still able to roll to mt side and get up. That is after I am able to roll over and get to my knees to crawl to a doorway. Then the pull up starts. Every fall upsets me. I don't fall at a good spot. My people dont understand.

Rashmi Jose avatar

Rashmi Jose

I admire your strength ... Your articles, make my realise that even in stressful times, it's possible to be so positive.Thank you so much.

Pilar Catlin avatar

Pilar Catlin

Hi there. I really enjoyed your story. I too am a face plant professional that enjoys a witty story now and then. I find laughter helps a lot. Keep on smiling. And don't fall.


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