Navigating the stigma that accompanies invisible MS symptoms
It can be exhausting trying to prove the legitimacy of my struggles
In the world of chronic illness, people tend to be perceived differently depending on the visibility of their condition. Some illnesses are easily noticeable while others aren’t, but both pose significant challenges to day-to-day life.
I’ve been living with relapsing-remitting multiple sclerosis since 2016, and for the most part, my condition has been invisible. A few years back, I dealt with tremors in my hands that progressively worsened, but then subsided. Today, none of the multiple sclerosis (MS) symptoms I experience are outwardly apparent.
On top of dealing with daily MS difficulties, I must navigate the stigma surrounding invisible illness. At first glance, most people wouldn’t guess that I live with MS because I “look fine.” The idea of “looking fine” or “being normal” is extremely invalidating because it erases my lived experience. What does “normal” even mean?
Personally, I have always felt the need to explain and justify my condition to others, which is mentally and emotionally exhausting. Throughout my time in school, a number of people have dismissed me as “lazy” or “weak,” claiming MS must be all in my head because they can’t see the symptoms.
There have also been moments when healthy people try to compare and compete with my symptoms. For example, when fatigue gets the better of me (which is most days), I’ll emphasize how tired I am. Others have retorted, “But you didn’t do anything today. I should be the one complaining.”
During these instances, I’ve had to advocate for those living with MS and other invisible illnesses. But we shouldn’t have to prove to others that our conditions and daily challenges are legitimate. After a while, educating others and justifying my reality become extremely tiresome, especially when people don’t care to hear what I have to say.
While advocacy and awareness about invisible conditions like MS seem to be growing, a considerable amount of work still must be done. Whether someone’s condition is visible or not, it’s important that we try to be as understanding as possible, because the obstacles and limitations are undeniable.
Just because you can’t see someone’s symptoms and challenges doesn’t mean they aren’t real and debilitating. We’ll never be able to completely understand another person’s reality because we aren’t living it ourselves, but kindness costs nothing.
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